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| OnlyONE, Male, 29, Canada, Burnaby |
30-1-2008 |
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| Cranky, Female, 37, USA, Bull |
27-2-2008 |
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| Your girlfriend might suspect something is amiss with you and that is why she is suddenly so clingy. Its called womens intuition. Its not fair to stay with your girlfriend while your in love with someone else. Pick one and go with it. If it doesn't work out there are tons of fish in the sea. |
| imaperson, Female, 25, USA, Notsayin |
21-2-2008 |
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| My situation is very similar to yours. The first difference is that I’m a girl who loves her boyfriend soooo much. But I also love my best friend. Now I’m not sure who you knew first, but I knew my best friend first. This is relevant for one reason. Once I started dating my boyfriend of three and a half years, I was no longer looking at guys, I was set. However, I already had feelings for my best friend, and it was too late to change those feelings. At first, it was easy to forget about my best friend in that way, with “new love” and all. But, as time went by, my feelings for my best friend started to reappear. Here’s the big difference between you and me, and my confession- I acted upon my feelings for him. Or maybe I should say he made the move. Either way, I kissed him. At first, I felt really guilty. However, eventually what happened was that I wanted more. And in time, I got more. Only, by this point, he was dating one of my female best friends. We made out a few times, and did some sexual things together (but not all the way). For a long time, I wondered if I was with the right person. So, I talked to my best friend. I mean REALLY talked. I asked him what it is about us that won’t let me move on. We figured out what it is that we have, and that is an unbelievable passion. At least that’s what he told me. If he lied to me so that I can go on living happily, I don’t know. If he did, he’s a better friend than I even realized. Anyway, that’s it, just passion. Sometimes you just have great chemistry with someone, and you are really attracted to them. Maybe it will never go away. But, a relationship takes more than chemistry. I believe I have better chemistry with my best friend, but I know that we are both too passionate and too stubborn to make it last forever. I’m still super happy with my boyfriend, and I know that I would be happy with him forever. Am I happy I did the things I did with my best friend? Or do I regret it? I’m really not sure. But now, I’m over it, and I’m very happy just being best friends with him. Maybe you have to go through what I went through, maybe you can avoid all the lying, I don’t know. But I’ve found that the most important thing was talking to my best friend. If you let her know that you are confiding in her, your best friend, I’m sure she won’t say anything to your girlfriend. But you’ve got to talk to her, it is way too stressful to keep all of those feeling inside of you. Maybe she’ll say she doesn’t feel that way about you. Then, it will be easy to get over it. If she does feel the same way about you, then maybe it’s just passion. I don’t know. But I would say that you definitely need to talk to her. Also, if your girlfriend is a bit clingy, talk to her too, but be SUPER sensitive. But you seem like a sweet guy, I’m sure you already know that. ;-) |
| blaaa279, Female, 33, United Kingdom, newcastle |
19-2-2008 |
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| Break up with your girlfriend, dont tell your friend for awhile, see how she acts around you |
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