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Letters3numbers, Female, 29, USA, sicklerville

Well theres this guy I know quite well. Were pretty much best friends an he's gay.(By the way Im a girl) We have alot of fun together an we act more like a couple then friends. I totally understand he's gay an the things I would want us to do is never ever gonna happen. But I think about him alot an I care about him alot too, it dosen't help eaither than I'm single an Im a bit clinggy. I only want to be friends with him but my feelings (heart) want more. I thought about dating but Im scared an its hard for me. Its alot on my mind all I really want is to be happy an it seems like he's the one who's making me unhappy cuz I don't have him.

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Natural, Male, 62, Canada, Toronto 27-5-2009
Hey girl I'll write as much as I can in 10 minutes. So you have a really nice best friend. It's OK to love him. Your stuck right now. If you spent your life trying to get water out of stones that would be a waste of time. Don't waste any time thinking about things you can't do with your friend. Learn how to love and be a friend with your friend and be a friend with some man or several men. Learn how to discuss difficult issues with men. Don't worry about dating, just be friends. If you learn to love more people you are going to be a wonderful person to be with. You are young, don't worry about it all so much. It is a whole lot easier at 30. As a guy I don't have much interest in hanging around with gay guys. If you are spending all day hanging around with your gay friend you are going to have a lot of potential guys just look elsewhere. I would say that for most guys. Being with a girl who ignores you to talk to a gay guy would be kind of embarrassing. Maybe it shouldn't be but it is always frustrating even if a girl is spending all her time when she is with you talking to her girlfriend. You need to be socially available to a potential guy. Ignoring a guy who is talking to you tells him he is not as good as the person you are talking to. Your friend is not the best choice of person to be seen with when trying to meet a man. That is just the way it is. Not the way it should be. Accept the way things are, and make changes because you are stuck.


Natural, Male, 62, Canada, Toronto 27-5-2009
Hey girl I'll write as much as I can in 10 minutes. So you have a really nice best friend. It's OK to love him. Your stuck right now. If you spent your life trying to get water out of stones that would be a waste of time. Don't waste any time thinking about things you can't do with your friend. Learn how to love and be a friend with your friend and be a friend with some man or several men. Learn how to discuss difficult issues with men. Don't worry about dating, just be friends. If you learn to love more people you are going to be a wonderful person to be with. You are young, don't worry about it all so much. It is a whole lot easier at 30. As a guy I don't have much interest in hanging around with gay guys. If you are spending all day hanging around with your gay friend you are going to have a lot of potential guys just look elsewhere. I would say that for most guys. Being with a girl who ignores you to talk to a gay guy would be kind of embarrassing. Maybe it shouldn't be but it is always frustrating even if a girl is spending all her time when she is with you talking to her girlfriend. You need to be socially available to a potential guy. Ignoring a guy who is talking to you tells him he is not as good as the person you are talking to. Your friend is not the best choice of person to be seen with when trying to meet a man. That is just the way it is. Not the way it should be. Accept the way things are, and make changes because you are stuck.


Cdog, Female, 30, USA, R-town 30-4-2009
My best friend is a gay male (Im female) and we act way more like a couple then anything, Were like bonnie and clyde, and i love him more then i probly love anyone eles right now.. But hes my best friend, closer to brother. And hes gay, he loves men. Hes had more bfs then me for christ sakes. Even if YOU decided to do anythign hed be like nah, i love the cock.


lepontneuf, Male, 44, USA, san francisco 18-4-2009
He's gay. You need to look at why you need to be with someone you cannot have. Why do you need something you cannot have? Are you actually really scared fo being close to someone. This is desire without real risk.


WorthLess78, Female, 41, Philippines, Quezon 11-4-2009
I feel for your, girl. Loving someone that doesn't want your love is very frustrating & depressing. We tend to pretend that we just wanted to be friends with that someone, best of friends... but its not enough for us. We wanted more and it hurts a lot coz we know it's impossible. And that someone suppose to bring joy to us but its the other way around. They make us miserable all the more....


MissCharmed, Female, 31, South Africa, Centurion 6-3-2009
Just remember to have enough respect for his sexuality to not put him in the position of losing you as a friend just because you want more. Try and be honest and tell him truthfully that you think you really like him... and not just as friends. But that you don't expect anything from him. ...And that he must help you manhunt for someone great!! =)



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