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Declining Relationship....??

asdfasdfasdf, Male, 22, Australia, Sydney

I have had my current girlfriend for abot 10 months now. It is the first time either of us have had a relationship that lasted this long. Both of us have always been popular and I have had numerous girlfriends and flings before, and she, likewise has had several boyfriends. However this is the first person that I have felt this way about and i decided to myself that I would take this relationship seriously. We have had a talk about this months ago and both of us have decided to try our best to make this relationship work, and last. Of course we each have many friends and acquaintaces of the opposite sex, but I have always tried to not get involved with anyone else. My girlfriend is the sort of person that guys would dream of (I believe so anyway). She's attractive, friendly, open minded, smart, funny, cute, etc... In the time that we have been going out I know of at least 3 guys who have asked her out, knowing that she has a boyfriend. This is because of the way she is around guys. She is extremely friendly and nice to new people she meets, and can still be a bit of a flirt to many guys sometimes. I decided to put those issues aside because i know that we both have very strong feeling for each other, and i trust her deeply. Of course many of you who are reading this will say that it doesnt matter if there are 100 guys who like her or who are going for her... as long as she does not feel for them in that way. Maybe it doesnt matter at all, but I still can't help feeling bothered by it. She still chooses to be very nice to every guy she knows, and although she will not go out with any of the other guys who have been interested in her, she rejects/lets them down VERY very lightly, and she still continues talking to them normally. I feel that the way she is acting that it will only be a matter of time before our relationship is in trouble. I would like her to be more like me in the way that she treats other people, but then again I dont want her to change who she really is. I know that she really loves me, but I do not want to be bothered anymore by these episodes of her being pampered and asked-out by other guys. What should i do? Should I try to change myself to become more relaxed about all these things? Should I end this relationship now before I get really hurt? I do not know how to say these things to her in this way because i really do not think that she will see things the way I do. HELP.. Comments please..

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Max1, Male, 38, United Kingdom, London

9-8-2006

I completely understand you as I had the very same situation. We are still together and going strong after 18 months. Your best approach is to genuinely do what she does not in a nasty way but to show her. You will be quite surprised how she will soon appreciate that although we are who we are there is a difference to being single than there is to being in a relationship with our behaviour with other people. When she starts to get it ……then discuss very gently and slowly normal boundaries or healthy boundaries for you and show her how you already do that for her and to protect the relationship. You will probably find that never realised and that advertising or responding to single men is implying that she is available where she probably see’s it as being nice. I bet if you were to do anything similar to her i.e. make a new single female friend she will not like it. She may not say it immediately but it will come out. Be firm but fair as there is a very big difference to how we behave when we are in a relationship. Remember she is learning too. Oh and my lady gets approached all the time and in front of me and she impresses me on how she deals with it. As she says as soon as she feels that a guy is interested or playing an angle she blanks him and she is very very perceptive. Be stong and stay with her here and your will reap the rewards.

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